This is the story of my life as a working mum. With a shift-working husband and 2 teenagers, our lives are pretty busy so our motto needs to be just get on with it! But real life always seems to have a way of adding in a little bit of spice to the mix, and thats when the story becomes more interesting.
All I want for Christmas (is you)
years Christmas has changed for me. Yes, it’s definitely as you get older, but
I think it also changes as you change, and is a reflection of your life
experiences, personal values along with your goals and expectations.
is such a commercial holiday. Aside from the religious aspects of the holiday,
which are very personal to each person and celebrated in a way that could
involve a lot of rituals and routines, there is the also the tradition of
celebrating our relationships with gifts and events.
I love a
good present and meal occasion as much as everyone else, but it feels like its
lacking genuineness and realism.
I love my
friends and family, is a gift needed to affirm that? We celebrate other times
during the year such as birthdays which are much more personal as they are
dedicated to the person, so why do we just generalise this at Christmas? Plus,
you end up spending a stack of money and creating a lot of stress and worry.
Stress about how much to spend, how to make time to shop (don’t even start
thinking about shopping centre parking) and worrying about what to buy, and
whether it’s going to be liked.
to articulate the exact reason why I still love Christmas, but I think it’s
basically (for me) just an opportunity to be grateful. Grateful that I have a
beautiful family who care about me and who I love being with, and grateful for
my extended family and friends for the role they play in my life - from advice,
fun times, holidays, knowledge and skills, aspirations and just listening.
way to show this gratefulness is in person. Activities like family get
together’s, dinners with friends, fun cards and messages – they are the things
I love. Or even just a candy cane and a chat with a favourite friends.
YES - YOU! #thanks
If you are
reading this, and rubbing your hands together thinking, perfect opportunity not
to buy me a present this year, then you are right! I would much prefer your
company to a gift. In fact, I’m working on streamlining my life and removing the
non-essential so you would be absolutely doing the right thing. Unless you are
my husband, and have a light blue jewellery box stashed away. That’s still ok.
are some of the ways I think you could celebrate Christmas in a different way,
and with the wonderful family and friends you have.
1.Take a short holiday together
I love a
good family holiday. Doesn’t even have to be your own family. Just be the
‘missing daughter’. Seriously, how many opportunities do you have to be
together with your extended family for a holiday after you leave home, or get
married? You will love the memories you make, and have so much fun planning
what activities you do together. For me – summer sunshine, beach cricket, lazy
My Aunty Bronwyn
has this one nailed. So traditional – 7 vegies, 5 meats, plum sauce etc etc.
It’s the meal of the year, and we love it. But what we love even more is the
chance for all of us to get together. It doesn’t happen often enough so it’s
even more special.
you do (seafood or traditional), enjoy it. Maybe consider inviting a friend
that would be alone otherwise.
families that plan Christmas shows, and rehearse the routines ready to present
on Christmas Day. Or you could plan a Christmas movie that remembers the fun
moments and interviews everyone about how they feel about life of the time.
Would be great to watch them back in years to come!
4.Volunteering / Pay it Forward
ever done this on Christmas Day, but never say never. It would be a really
special thing to share your gratefulness for a good life with people who need
some support. There are loads of places looking for people to help serve up
Christmas lunch. Check your local council page. Take your kids along, they will
remember this forever.
ever thought about having a big Christmas event for your extended family,
friends and community? You could have a street party, or have a Christmas
Carols on the lawn! It would be so much fun. Lots of candles, singing, and
laughter. Bring a plate! Amazing.
Using my shoes as candle holders. Check out Bett's face...
read about people making Christmas resolutions. It doesn’t feel as daunting
making goals at Christmas when you are in a great, positive mind space, and you
are drinking egg nog. Instead of asking for something, you could think about
what you can give back, and what you want to aim for in the coming year. You
might be surprised at what your kids come up with.
going to be a controversial one, but why not re-gift if you really want to
share a present? I may be alone in this, but I have things in my cupboards that
were lovingly given to me and I’ve never used. How great would you feel knowing
that something you had carefully selected is actually being used. Regardless of
the recipient. I’m still grateful for the kind thought, but even better is the
utilisation. Share the love.
this Christmas, consider creating memories that don’t revolve around a huge
pile of gifts (and money spent), and strip back to moments of gratefulness.
love to hear your ideas on how to simplify and bring back the meaning of
Christmas. Let us know your thoughts.